Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Ideal version of feminism


My ideal version of feminism in the 21st century would be to have women looked at as equal as men for the majority of things, yet stay a woman.  I think that now a day’s many women are starting to stray away from the previously known role of a woman, wanting for example:  better jobs or more rights or more freedom.  They are straying away from the motherly role they were “built” to lead.  The more equal a woman becomes to a man the less “motherly” they are. I agree that a woman should be able to do whatever job they want to do and that they should be able to believe and stand up for whatever they want to but they should not be looked at as equal to a man in every aspect.  A woman cannot protect a family as much as a man can, a woman cannot make the same amount of money as man can (Jonathon stated today that even if a man and a woman are doing the same job the man will make more money doing it) a woman cannot be taken as serious as a man can be taken.  There are many things that a woman cannot do that a man has no problem doing so why in the world would we treat them equal.  Yes a woman should work and help provide for her family but a woman’s role in providing for the family is to stay home and care for the children, that not meaning that she needs to be at home while the kids are away for example at school or whatnot but say she gets them up and ready for school and drops them off on her way to go to a job in which she will get off of in time to pick the kids up from school.  A woman needs to be able to interact with society and adults but her main “job”; role in life is to be a mother.  So I guess I’m trying to say an ideal version of a woman for me in the 21st century is one who provides for her family, is classy, nurturing, yet educated and successful. 
Gender equality, family, and status should be the most important thing in the next century.  Everyone is worried about working so hard and making all this money.  Just as Lisa stated earlier today, “why do we work so hard to be so busy?”  She asked a great question because if you’re striving to have the best job and tons of money  by working 100 hours a week then how in the hell are you going to be able to enjoy what you have earned.  Why work tremendous amounts of hours to be able to put your kids through sports or activities yet you’re not even there to watch them play.  Some people are to the point that they have to hire a driver to take their kids to their sport games or whatever. Seriously what is the point of that?  Your kid is going to be spending all this time practicing to play this last championship game that you won’t ever be able to make it to cuz your working and then he is going to end up hating the sport probably because it will always remind him of how you weren't there.  Now I know that is extreme but I think it’s true.  People to take a step back and realize that life is not all about work and having the nicest things or the most things, it’s about making the most about what you have and enjoying life.  People need to not focus all their energy on work and “things” but focus more on family.

4 comments:

  1. I agree with you in a lot of ways about the role of a woman. I think that women should be viewed equally to men...as humans, but not necessarily in their capabilities in all of the same things.

    Watching Shawn's parents of the kids that he coaches try to juggle everything seems impossible. Even in the families where there is a "stay at home mom". We totally make our lives much busier than we need to!

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  2. I love your perspective that women's main "role" is a mother/ nurture. However I dont think all women are capable of being "good" mothers and in some situations the men/ fathers are better providers for the children and that in some situations children may be better taken care of in daycares and schools than by both parents at home.

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  3. I think that your perspective on this topic is very real, and a different point of view than many people will think about. In the case of working and missing your kids practice/games, I have seen this happen many times, and it is true that the child usually resents the parents for it. I grew up with my mom teaching me the idea that I should always be independent. She told me from a young age that it was important to work and provide for your family, because you never know what tomorrow will bring. You may find yourself single after 15 years of marriage, whether it be from a divorce or a death, with this long out of the "real world" how would you survive and provide for your children. I think that having the opportunity to excel in whatever field you choose is an amazing thing, and is a depiction on the growth of our society (whether it be a stay at home mom, a working mom, and a single woman). Great insight!!

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  4. I like your view of women and I love the way our mothers were and are tehy did so much fo rus and they were always there for us. I cannot wait for the day that I get to be a mother and help them and love and nurtute them. I think a mother daoes a great job and they are teh best for the job. I reallyhope that our jobs let us e done in enough time to get our kids from school. Loved all of your points!

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